Female Worship
77The idea of worshiping women and lifting them on a pedestal higher than anything else in humanity is certainly not new. Many men seem to gravitate towards thinking of women as something divine that they must worship and look up to. Today however this female worship has an entirely new meaning in the context of gender equality and feminism and I want to take a look at it more closely.
Firstly, like the term god complex, the term female worship is not a formal medical term that you’ll find in textbooks. That doesn’t mean it has no meaning but that meaning is taken from the people using it with regard to the context. Having made that distinction I want to call female worship the pattern of behavior that leads men in particular to treat a woman or sometimes all women undeservedly as something greater than human. The key word here is undeservedly. Of course, treating anyone as greater than human is not good because it's obviously false. But what makes female worship stand out is that there seems to be no real connection between the woman’s true virtues and the worship that she receives from men. She is just worshiped for being a woman. I call it undeserved because being female is no more a virtue than being male. As blatantly obvious as that sentence may be, it’s amazing how many men can’t seem to get away from female worship and don't even want to.
Why do men worship women?
Of course not all do. Even among heterosexual men, the worshiping ones are in the minority I would say. But still there are so many that you could call it a societal mass phenomenon. There are several causes for this:
- One cause is surely the biological attraction to females and the rush of hormones that can make men (temporarily) loose their minds. This explains why female worship is usually aimed at young beautiful women rather than any woman. I’m just analyzing here so please try to not get upset yet.
- A boy’s relationship with his mother probably plays the most important part in later female worship. But what kind of relationship exactly brings this about escapes me. If anyone has more information on this please fill me in.
- The upbringing and schooling in a culture that treats women and girls as the ‘special sex’. For example, women’s lives are typically treated as inherently more valuable than men’s. This is so ingrained in our society that we don’t even notice it. It just seems normal which is why there isn’t more protest when people call out “women and children first” in an emergency. Again, I’m just telling it the way it is, not how it should be.
- Some submissive men also just like to look up to women. It's their nature to want women to be on top in their lives.
These four points mutually reinforce each other in a very complex way. I’m not even going to try to describe that in detail. This was more of an introduction to get a better idea of what we’re talking about.
Female Worship in Modern Society
Unless you’ve been living on the moon, you’ll know that the last few generations of western society have seen a massive shift towards female empowerment. Women have gained rights and liberties so that they’re generally equal to men’s rights. Some people even say the pendulum has swung the other way now and that men are actually less privileged relative to women but I won’t go into that here because it’s another topic. The important thing to take from this, is that treating men and women as equally valuable and equally privileged is one of the idealistic principles of modern society. Whether or not that is successfully implemented is another question.
The problem is that female worship completely contradicts those ideals of gender equality. And yet it is a mass phenomenon that both genders typically nurture and perpetuate. A brief glance across the media is enough to show how young beautiful women are portrayed as the ultimate human being (The media is a reflection of society). This of course reinforces that phenomenon of female worship – especially to young boys (and girls) who grow up consuming media in massive amounts. The underlying message that youngsters are taking from this is that women are superior to men and that it’s not only ok but also true to say so publicly. Even president Obama said in a public speech that girls can do anything boys can do only better.
Both men and women end up believing this female superiority on some level of consciousness. There’s no end to the number of articles and publications that suggest women do things better than men or that they have some inherent social advantage making them better leaders (or better anything). It’s mostly nonsense of course, but somehow it is the politically correct position and most half-baked research is geared at confirming it. So these researchers often find what they’re looking for – whether it exists or not.
This is like female worship gone out of control. I can imagine that the days where women had far fewer rights relative to men, worshiping them as goddesses was probably not only harmless but may have balanced things out a little. In modern society, however, female worship has far reaching implications for future generations. It is certainly not harmless today and I fear that it might be causing us a lot of trouble the repercussions of which can’t be overstated.
The
funniest part is this:Nothing says more about a people’s abilities and
strengths than their accomplishments. And if we ever did make a serious
no-nonsense comparison between the genders it would turn out rather bad for political correctness. I don’t think comparing genders is a good idea though. It’s far
too general – like comparing blond people with red heads. It says nothing about
you as an individual and so it isn’t very interesting. The final thing to
remember about this is that men and women are far more similar than we are
different. Within the genders, there are far greater differences than between
them.
How this affects women
Because female worship, so far as it is based on physical attraction, is mostly aimed at young beautiful women, that leaves all the others with nothing. This provokes ageism and hostility between women from different generations. It also pressurizes women, who are aware of this phenomenon, to race against their biological clock in order to secure whatever they can ‘before it’s too late’. Not exactly the best way to find true love.
The biggest problem that female worship causes for women is surely that it’s completely without merit. Women gain a very high status for nothing other than their looks and for being female. This inspires young girls to go down that road and rely on plastic surgery instead of their brains. That reinforces negative stereotypes from the past.
So girls, there are many men out there who are attracted to intelligent and accomplished women who look very ordinary. Don’t let the media tell you that supermodels' looks are the only way to have a fulfilled life.
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Female Worship in Relationships
Who am I to tell you how to live?! Answer: nobody. If you men choose to worship the woman in your life then by all means go ahead. My own boyfriend has a tendency to worship me but it isn’t over the top and it does make things fun sometimes for entirely different reasons. Besides I worship the ground on which he walks. But this is a personal choice and it shouldn’t affect your opinion or respect for other people. For example, I’ve known men to worship women who they don’t even know and who don’t have any feelings for them. There’s that word undeserved again.
If you’re one of those female worshipers:
Chances are
you’ve already been taken advantage of and hurt by a woman. If not, then you
will be very soon. Giving people credit they don’t deserve will eventually blow
up in your face. Try to remember that women are just people. Like with men, there
are plenty of flaws in them. Your respect must be earned – don’t give it to
someone just for having two X chromosomes. And most importantly, please do not
pass that on to others by raising children that way or by treating everyday
strangers with female worship. I realize, that it may not be easy to get out of
that pattern but it will make things better in the long run - not just for you.
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Great article Lucy.
@Paradise7:
You said it exactly right: "Dollars and cents are driving the car" and just as you also said it's MEN's money that they're targeting. So it is MEN who are being used. All the women involved are there by choice and get paid plenty. The only direct victims of that are men.
Anyway I don't see much of that in advertising compared with the flood of misandry that you find all over the media.
And what "indefensible" conclusions are you talking about? I wouldn't throw around big strong sentences without backing them up. Sounds more like you're taking it personal.
She wasn't saying that women arn't viewed as sex objects. She was making the point certain men have a blind attraction to women who might conceivably have the upper hand in a relationship. I agree that the worshiping behavioural characteristics stem from a strong Mother figure. My understanding is a male unconsciously links discipline, love and compassion together when he perceives an attractive woman. Although these sort of characteristics have different levels with different people, they determine how a male will behave in the company of a female. Nobody thinks that men don't see women as simple sex objects a lot of the time but as far as I can make out, the above was a article about why men have a drive to worship the opposite sex.
It is so refreshing to read intelligent and balanced thinking about gender. Please, please continue researching and writing about what you find in the way that you do.
Thanks Tom. I really appreciate it.
I'll see how I develop that topic in the future. At the moment I haven't had the time to continue it. Certainly I'm still interested in exploring it further.
This page really hit every button. YES I got hurt, I worshipped my wife and trusted that if I was good and totally submissive 'Nothing could go wrong' I sold up everything in England and moved to live near her parents in Turkey. I bought everything in her name because things were quicker that way. Well...she took everything along with a diseased but wealthy lover and then a career in uhhhh 'Escorting' Six years on I am still a single dad of our now 7 yr old daughter. The ex has returned to the U.K only to seek to finnish me off. She is doing this by charracter assasination and claiming (in our custody case) that I was a controlling, violent and abusive husband. Nothing could be further from the truth and I am in terror of her. Now everytime someone gets close to us (myself and my daughter) I go off the boil. OK i'm looking for a particular type...age and race is unimportant but still she must be keen to take the dominant role. At 45 yrs of age i'm seriously starting to doubt i'm going to find her.
Hi Toeknight,
I'm very sorry for your experience. That really is awful and mean. I hope you get out of it with some dignity.
Finding a woman who's willing to dominate you in some way shouldn't be too hard. But finding one that is willing to completely dominate you in every aspect of life, that is going to be hard. And I doubt it's a healthy road to go down anyway. Remember, you're still an autonomous adult and, even though it can be good to let your partner take charge over certain things, it can't be good to have her decide everything in your life.
That's just the way I feel about it.
Thanks for your view on something which hasnt been explored enough. What you said about men being inherently not as valued as women has repercussions fro both sexes. If a man doesnt see himself truly as something inherently valuable, how can he love a woman properly? i know I myself have suffered from low self esteem because of the messages I receive from the media and society about the lack of worth of men.
Thanks Timmy,
I think you have a point with a man not being able to love properly if he undervalues himself. The same is true for women of course only that they don't seem to be devalued by the media anymore - at least not as much as men.
"Firstly, the biological attraction to females and the rush of hormones that can make men (temporarily) loose their minds is surely at the basis of it all."
The only thing sure about this statement is its cynical, negative and highly dismissive nature. Funny...I just wrote a hub about disinformation campaigns and found this article shortly after.
Hi Sarah,
if you're going to attack and dismiss what I have to say, then it's only fair to at least include what you disagree with and why.
Just saying "wrong" is not an argument with which you're going to change my view.
Are you going to let my comment through or what?
Hm, let me see. I asked you to come up with arguments that you can justify and instead you launched a series of ad homini. Maybe not. If you can come up with something constructive then you're more than welcome (even if it's the opposite of my opinion).
Perhaps the following will give you an idea of what I mean:
Being cynical, negative or dismissive does not mean something isn't true.
Show me where I'm wrong, not where I'm bad.
If you give me a reason, then I might change something in my views.
Lucy:
"Being cynical, negative or dismissive does not mean something isn't true."
Yeah, but negative and dismissive attitudes aren't usually the best way of courting truth. Since you pride yourself on being for equality so much, I'd think you'd want to approach things from a more balanced perspective…one that isn't so absolute. It seems clear to me you're on a mission to discredit Female Supremacism.
Examples:
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"If you’re one of those female worshipers, chances are you’ve already been taken advantage of and hurt by a woman. If not, then you will be very soon."
How do you know this! How can you speak for every person out there? This comment is just irresponsible, because you can't prove this happens in 100%, 50% or even 5% of the cases out there.
"Giving people credit they don’t deserve will eventually blow up in your face."
You're saying these Women don't deserve it across the board? Who are these Women? Do you know them personally? How do you know they don't deserve adoration and praise?
"Because female worship is mostly (but not entirely) aimed at young beautiful women, that leaves all the others with nothing."
Actually several Dominas I know personally are in their early fifties and still enjoy the attentions of submissive men. This statement is just too stark and negative.
"Firstly, the biological attraction to females and the rush of hormones that can make men (temporarily) loose their minds is surely at the basis of it all."
Again, this is kind of dismissive and doesn't take into account the excellence of Female leadership. It also makes every male believer look like some horny lunatic, and nothing else. How experienced are you with Female Supremacy-based relationships and the people who engage in them? I can't imagine anyone with actual experience with Female Supremacy relationships making this statement, unless your only exposure to it is twenty-something finger-flipping money dommes who exploit men online.
"The problem is that female worship completely contradicts those ideals of gender equality."
For some people, that's not a problem. It looks like you're looking at this from a "they are gonna take over society!" perspective. Is this why you assault the foundations of the belief and practice? Thanks for answering my questions.
Thanks, now we can talk:
“It seems clear to me you're on a mission to discredit Female Supremacism.”
Do you know marc by any chance? Just had a big argument with him where he hopefully finally understood that this is not the case. I like female supremacism a lot - just not when it’s imposed on others who might not want it. See my article on female supremacy and scroll to the bottom of the comment section for a longer explanation.
“"If you’re one of those female worshipers, chances are you’ve already been taken advantage of and hurt by a woman. If not, then you will be very soon."
How do you know this! How can you speak for every person out there? This comment is just irresponsible, because you can't prove this happens in 100%, 50% or even 5% of the cases out there.”
This is aimed specifically at those who worship women for being women even if they’re total strangers who’s agenda they can’t know. There are a lot of people who will exploit this and people (men or women) need to be aware of it. If someone worships any woman he meets, it’s sweet of course but if he can’t also question her morality then he’s exposing himself to the possibility of being used. Even if it’s only 1% of the population who do this, it’s still a bad idea. Would you regularly give your purse to a random stranger and ask them to bring it back the next day and justify that with “well I can’t prove that he won’t bring it back”? If so, then I have to tell you that sooner or later you will lose it.
“You're saying these Women don't deserve it across the board? Who are these Women? Do you know them personally? How do you know they don't deserve adoration and praise?”
I’m referring to anyone here, not a specific group. My point is that if people earn it, they should get whatever they deserve. But giving credit, trust or to someone because of nothing other than their gender is kind of a weak basis on which to build anything. Being (fe)male is not exactly an accomplishment that earns praise in itself. Just like being white or blue-eyed are not qualifications. I.e. worship by merit and not by accident.
“"Because female worship is mostly (but not entirely) aimed at young beautiful women, that leaves all the others with nothing."
Actually several Dominas I know personally are in their early fifties and still enjoy the attentions of submissive men. This statement is just too stark and negative.”
Ok, that might have been a bit harsh and perhaps I’ll revise it afterwards. I make a difference between female worship and female supremacy. Both can exist without the other. Female supremacy (in private) is a lifestyle or attitude while female worship is mostly a male state of mind or emotion. Female worship is also very strongly based on attraction and what the man feels makes a woman attractive. Perhaps it’s better to call it ‘feminine worship’. You can build female supremacy on feminine worship as it is very effective powerbase. But this feminine worship will heavily depend on the man’s physical attraction to the woman and as a powerbase it will diminish with age. Of course that isn’t nice but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t true. Also, remember that when you’re dealing with male attraction to female you’re dealing with raw nature. You can tame it up to a point but you cannot control it.
You can build a female supremacist relationship on other things too though. There is a whole world of possibilities out there beyond just physical attraction.
“"Firstly, the biological attraction to females and the rush of hormones that can make men (temporarily) loose their minds is surely at the basis of it all."
Again, this is kind of dismissive and doesn't take into account the excellence of Female leadership. It also makes every male believer look like some horny lunatic, and nothing else. How experienced are you with Female Supremacy-based relationships and the people who engage in them? …”
That statement was one of several causes I listed for female worship. It’s not the only one and probably not even the strongest one. I can see now how the words I used might give the wrong impression. I’ll go and change it after finishing this.
To answer your question, I’m in a long-term relationship leans heavily towards female supremacy. That doesn’t make me the most experienced in the matter, but I’ve seen enough to know that much of what’s out there on the internet is a glorification of a lifestyle that has a reality that is very different. In this article I’m quite harsh with that glorification because it seems to cater to (mostly male) fantasy more than to reality. Fantasies are nice but it gets problematic when you confuse them with reality. Sadly there is an abundance of online writing that intentionally hides or denies the boundaries between the two.
I get so many mails from men who are looking for a woman to control them in every aspect of their lives 24/7. Why does somebody want to life the life of a small child? In some cases perhaps because he is a child emotionally or mentally, but then his consent to subservience would be invalid and that undermines the whole idea of choosing one’s own lifestyle. From what I’ve seen and heard though, many if not most of these men are only fantasizing about the 24/7 lifestyle. They’re emailing me because they get a kick out of the chat. Most websites cater to that kick too - again giving the wrong impression of the reality.
“"The problem is that female worship completely contradicts those ideals of gender equality."
For some people, that's not a problem. It looks like you're looking at this from a "they are gonna take over society!" perspective. Is this why you assault the foundations of the belief and practice? Thanks for answering my questions.“
You need to put that statement into context. It was made under the title “female worship in modern society”. Here I was talking about it as a public phenomenon (i.e. media, politics etc). And yes, it does contradict gender equality. You can’t celebrate one gender specifically without automatically demeaning the other gender. An individual can, but a society cannot. It has nothing to do with conspiracy theories or anything like that. It’s about sending a message to the public (in particular youngsters) that one gender is inherently better. Everyone is free to feel that way if they want but nobody should impose that view on others who might not share it or are too young to be able to put it into context.
I'm on my way out the door at the moment, but wanted to say thank you for addressing my questions, and I will address each of your points too.
I think it's great that you're engaged in a Female Supremacy-based relationship! It would be wonderful to see an article written by you that talks about the positives, though!
Thanks.
You know, that's a good idea. I'll add that to my list of things to write about.
@Lucy & Saharah Eve
«You can build female supremacy on feminine worship as it is very effective powerbase. But this feminine worship will heavily depend on the man’s physical attraction to the woman and as a powerbase it will diminish with age.»
physical attraction may be a starting point but the real powerbase on long run is man's unconditional love for the Woman, his desire to please Her because he love Her. Female worship is a form of love after all. It's more than just physical attraction. It's admiration for intrinsect females qualities. No?
just my 5 cents based on my little personnal experience...
Hi Max,
interesting point. But where does real love start after attraction stops? And also, what about a woman's love for her man? If unconditional love is the basis for power then a female led relationship would require would only work if the man loves the woman a lot more than vice versa.
Or did I misunderstand you?
Hi Lucy, just figuired I would stop over hear and see what you had to say, funny I was going to ask you if you were in a Female Led Relationship, I figuired as much since you have such high standards! I agre with Saharah Eve that itwould be nice to hear about some of the benefits of such a relationship. It seems you and Saharah Eve have butted heads a little, probably just too much power from two progressive Alpha Females in one place, kind of like an overloaded electrical circuit with sparks flying!! LOL. I do think you are both on the right track, but may just have different routes you want to take as Feminine power is on the rise anyplace from bedroom to boardroom. Hope you ladies have a nice weekend!!
Hi Lucy, glad to heear you are going to do some writing on you own personal Female Supremacy based relationship.
I have several questions that I am curios about and may be helpful in your writings.
1) Do you have a formal relationship with a contract or a more informal leadership style?
2) Was your relationship FML from the start?
If the answer is yes, how did you go about picking up your "Trophy"
If the answer is no, did it evolve based on your natural supremacy or was it something you sat down with as a couple and renegotiated?
I feel that although such relationships may not yet be considered main stream, that a lot more people are living this way than they admit, and that it is on the rise and will probably will be the norm in the near future as Female Dominance rises throughout society. What is your opinion on that?
What do you feel the benifits and possible pitfals are of such a relationship are?
Some benifits I see are:
1) Increased control for the Female over both her own life and finances as well as her family
2) Although the male always has input on things, with the Female having the final say, there is a streamlined decision making process, and absence of a constant power struggle.
3) With the Women delagating she has a lighter work load as her position on household chores can be more supervisory.
4)Since the male has relinquished most magor decisions to the Female, he can concentrate his efforts on getting his household duties done quickly and correctly allowing more time for the couple to be intimate
I suppose the main downside would be if the Women was stuck micro managing because the male was not as ready for this lifestyle as he thought.
Also,as one of your biggest fans,I just wanted to say that the fact that you live a personal lifestyle based on Female Supremacy gives credibility to your writings in general since you practice what you preach,and don't believe you points of view should be imposed on anyone, but just continue there natural shift towards Female leadership from bedroom to boardroom.
Thank you for taking that suggestion seriously. I look forward to reading your next article. :)
Saharaheve, you seem to be a srtong proponant of Female Supremacy based relathionships, would you care to share why you believe so strongly in them? Looking forward to your insight.
You are amazing...every word. I am in awe. I bow and acknowledge your Supremacy.
I am a proponent of Female Superiority. It has nothing to do with mere sexual attraction: it has to do with intellectual beliefs that the Female is vastly superior to the male.
It is so refreshing to find a REAL Superior Female who knows it and can teach it while we all look on in awe.
Miss Lucy may I talk to you for a moment please?
Sure Kerry. Just message me directly.
Did you receive my email message?
Yes I got it and I hope you got my response.
This article is funny. You just wrote something regarding weak men who bow down to women. So what? everyone knows they exist. The point is that men will never worship women, women wish they did.
Dear Madam Lucy,
Very interesting discussion. I am happy to say that I have been in a wife-led marriage for the past 6 yrs now! I don't think that my respect & devotion to my Goddess will diminish with her age, simply because my devotion to her is based on a strong intellectually sound foundation.
As a daily ritual, I worship her feet at least twice a day (morning & at bed-time), I do her hair, beauty treatments (manicure, pedicure, facials, body massage, etc). Before marriage, I did a diploma in ladies' hair & beauty therapy all the way to serve my future Goddess. Also I do her laundry, cooking and house keeping with her instructions.
Madam, as you have stated, female-led relationships are now on the rise. Yes, in fact it is going to be a very popular lifestyle in the next few years. With this trend, the meaning of "marriage" among an FLR loving couple will be that "the life of a man is to be blessed with a Goddess' leadership & guidance, and the life of a woman to be turned into a Goddess with the worship of a man who is her obedient assistant for life."
Respectfully looking forward to your response, please.
Hi Alex,
sounds like you're a great partner for your wife. If I may ask, what exactly do you mean by "worship her feet"?
Many thanks for your reply, Madam.
What I mean by 'worship a woman's feet' is to respectfully kneel down before her and then kiss her feet. Sometimes she keeps her feet on my palms while I kiss her feet. In addition, whatever I do to satisfy her, for example, giving her a pedicure, foot or body massage, and even doing her laundry, etc I feel as if I am worshipping her feet. For us, my worship of her feet is an essential part of our relationship.
- Alex
Dear Madam Lucy,
I am realy appreciative of your comments made on the very important subject of worshiping wemen. I think the practice is extreemly important because I agree on the fact that woman are superior and I would hope that all man start to behave to weman in a worshiping way. Do you have any advice in how I can help women be more liberated in society and help the change where woman are the most powerful people?
Hi Ken,
my advice to you is to NOT worship women just because for being women. Worship your partner by all means but not a gender. If you want women to be liberated then just treat us as equals and the rest will follow. If women are superior as you say, then we don't need any help.
I am two spirited and there are many of my tribe that have been transitioning to their woman side because of the coming age... most of society things of us as freaks but in reality we are a mirror of what the rest of you are destined to become... in the coming age, women will be in charge... not because they are superior, or should be worshiped... they will take charge simply because men are more and more confused... women are multi tasking while , men are on the very narrow... single minded task... it will not be some great uphevel but will continue to be steady in that women will be taking on more of the work place and finally their positions in Gov't... when they take the gov't then things begin to change... it will be subtle so there won't be so much violence yet there will be some from the hang over of men not wanting to go down this road... but by the time they get the head around it, it will be to late...no I'm not preaching doom and gloom... just observing how you live your lives...we don't fit in your world but it's mostly because men are so afraid of us or becoming like us... women on the other hand see some worth in this behavior, and will soon start to encourage more men to embrace their softer side... it has already been put into motion so it will not stop, just because men do not want it... women are more educated today and by 2020 will have overtake the work place in that they will be far more of them in positions of power... I am one of the old ones so I write this down for you to know... I may not see it, but I know it in my spirit... to all the women out there who have been hurt and abused... please try not to retaliate on every man... but I know there will be laws that deal very harshly with what men have been and were... good luck and grace to you all... both woman and mankind changes for the better actually...so take heart and explore... your new digs are waiting for you...peace...
Jeanie,
I don't believe women will ever be in charge in the way you described - not because we can't though.
@ alex: Respecting your wife is okay,But worshiping is not needed..As Lucy said,worshiping a person is directly proportional to the deeds done by him/her..We have certain adoration like feeling towards our mother,isn't it? its because she carried us 10 months in her womb and raised and nurtured us to this level.So we have a special love mixed with adoration for her..But, that too is not worshiping.Even she doesn't have the right to get worshiped..Respect your women and worship the Almighty.
Paradise7 Level 7 Commenter 2 years ago
This was an interesting read, though I think you might have drawn some fairly indefensible conclusions. Women treated as sex objects are not worshipped: they are being used for commercial purposes of titillating men, to get attention for the products being offered. This isn't worship. Dollars and cents are driving that car.